Friday, January 22, 2016

106. Keep the Home Fires Burning


Proverbs 5


Drink water out of your own cistern, running water out of your own well. 5:15.  Have your physical and emotional needs met at home.

Should your springs overflow in the streets, streams of water in the public squares? 5:16.  Should your children, the offspring of other women, be running around in the streets of your town?  Should they be seen in public places as a constant reminder of your past foolishness?

Let them (your children) be for yourself alone, not for strangers with you. 5:17.  Arrange it so that your children are a blessing to your virtuous self.  These children that you have the opportunity to train will make you "downright proud" to be their daddy.

Let your fountain (children) be blessed.  Your children will have a more solid foundation and a better life because they know who their parents are and because they will not be honestly teased because of errors that their father has made.

and rejoice with the wife of your youth. 5:18.  Some, in the church, have made it an issue that "making love", even in a wholesome marriage relationship, must be only for the purpose of "making babies".  They teach that any pleasure that is derived from "having sex" is a sin.  The Bible wholeheartedly refuses to acknowledge that unhealthy, absurd and stupid teaching.  Marriage is honorable in all (aspects), and the bed undefiled, but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. Heb 13:4.
There has been a constant effort made to show that celibacy was a more holy state; that there was something in marriage that rendered it “dishonorable” for those who are in the ministry, and for those of either sex who would be eminently pure. This sentiment has been the cause of more abomination in the world than any other single opinion claiming to have a religious sanction. It is one of the supports on which the Papal system rests, and has been one of the principal upholders of all the corruptions in monasteries and nunneries. Barnes Commentary.

Like the loving deer and pleasant doe, she is beautiful, fun to be with and lively as a young deer, enjoy her presence; after all, it was you that chose her for those very reasons.

let her breasts satisfy you at all times, throughout your life, not only when you are trying to "make a baby", and be ravished always with her love. 5:19.  Stay with the wife you married while you were young; gain experiences, gain learning and maturity together.  Enjoy her body and accept her love for you!

Wife, if you don't want your husband to roam you must do your share in keeping him at home and satisfied.  Rules and promises alone cannot make him stay at home if he is not satisfied!

In a counselling session, I told a troubled couple that if they were working on the idea of a fifty/fifty relationship, it would never work.  I told them that each partner must be willing to give, what they see as, about 90 per cent.  If each is willing to do that, they will meet at about the 50% point.  A while later the lady came back and thanked me for that bit of advice; because they were trying to follow that advice their relationship had improved.

Don't desert the ship when the sea is rough.  It is the rough seas that makes a common sailor the captain of a ship.  With time her annoying mannerisms will disappear if you are willing, also, to work on your roughness in the process.  All manner of shortcomings can be forgiven by each partner, but each must be willing to accept forgiveness so that emotional healing can take place.

Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of your life, which he (Jehovah) has given you ...: for that is your portion in life. Eccles. 9:9

Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church. Eph 5:25.  Some other religions may not teach this, but in Christianity, it is a basic rule.

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